No matter how experienced you are in communication with girls, to be the most successful guy, there is little more necessary than simply being the best among the rest. This is the simplest and most successful method. As Oleksandr says, the best way to become a Casanova and date the most beautiful ladies is to be the one they want.
Be Simply The Best
Oleksandr and Anton have been practising this for quite some time. From their school days, they started exploring the field of seduction through their own experience and mistakes. This search brought them together on one of the many courses on seduction here in Kyiv, four years ago. Learning the basics and getting answers to questions that had plagued them for years, these two then decided to create their own pick-up method, which has already helped many a Ukrainian candidate. "It started off at first as a kind of sport. Now, it has turned into a deeper investigation of romantic relationships," says Oleksandr. Anton adds, "If previously we tried to get as many girls into bed as possible, now we have begun to delve deeper into relationships, to help other guys deal with their problems and achieve their goals."
The Beast Within
Reducing the theoretical pick-up course to a minimum, I ask Anton and Oleksandr to crystallise the main qualities needed to become a Casanova. Oleksandr begins, "I do not like people calling me a Casanova. I’m not a Casanova. I just know how to seduce a girl and teach others to do the same. There is a misconception that a pick-up artist, or as you politely call us Casanovas, have a sort of specialist knowledge or skill, that we seduce at a glance. In order to be successful at seduction, you have first to work a lot on yourself – every man has an inborn ability to seduce. When people say Casanova, they usually mean a man who drives all girls crazy. When we talk about being a pick-up artist, you should keep in mind that the best artists have the highest failure rate. But at the same time, their effectiveness is as great as the percentage of their failures."
"Many do not realise that pick-up is based on giving more to your partner than you receive in return,” continues Anton. “Men are born to seduce women. But that doesn’t mean that animal instincts should hurt others. We teach our clients how to bring the utmost pleasure to a girl, but not act like a clinical Casanova, who just does his job and disappears. To prove it, I still have wonderful relationships with all of my former partners."
As we talk, I learn that the pick-up theory is based on three doctrines: mental/social status, outlook and technique. By the way, technique and all these ‘supernatural’ tricks a pick-up artist might use to get laid, are the least important components in this art. As an example, Oleksandr recalls one of his clients, a 58-year-old man who thought he was not popular among girls because he was not rich enough. “As quite a wealthy man, he came to me and we started working on his psychological condition and appearance. Now, he knows how to hook up with girls without even spending a penny.”
The Best Hencoop In The City
So where are all the chicks gathering in Kyiv? Well, there’s a lot of them right there on the street, but what would be the best place for a date? An experienced pick-up artist can work everywhere. But what about the rest of us, who are not quite confident enough to walk up to a girl and introduce ourselves? Oleksandr replies that his friends often call him a “club expert”, and not by accident. He has chosen this sphere because every club is a “hot contact”. The ladies will usually say that they like to head out to the clubs “just to dance”, but many are there "purely to find a guy". For Oleksandr, it takes little more than an hour to find his target and take her to an intimate place – far faster than the standard three-date process!
Sharing his personal experience, he says the best places currently in town for that are Arena, D’Lux, Museum Le Club and Skybar. Adding still to this, Anton tells us about a few more hotspots: "In addition to clubs, many girls are often looking for some fun in various pre-party cafés. The Internet is also a pretty easy way to find some action. If you decide to try and meet someone on the street, be ready to be faced with a rather cold reaction, as women are often thinking about their own issues as they walk, and you just happen to be in the wrong place at the wrong time."
Hints for the Ladies
An interesting theory about pick-up is that it is a purely male affair. "Not exactly," Anton corrects. "It would be great if someone would open a pick-up club for ladies, because there is so much rubbish literature written for them these days, like How to be a Bitch or How to Marry a Millionaire. No one is telling them what they really have to do to be successful in life. I’d like to give all of them some advice: Think about what you are reading and who has written these books. Look after yourself and never stop developing your personality! And then your life will be better than the life of the authors who have written these self-help books about things they have never had.
10 Tips to Pick-up
1. Be simply the best among others.
2. Be stylish and trendy. Look around to see what is popular nowadays.
3. Be sporty, but not too much.
4. Be a confident and interesting person. Don’t be afraid to to make the first move.
5. Visit good places. This does not mean luxurious restaurants.
6. Choose venues where ladies like to relax so that you can talk. Pre-party bars, restaurants and cafes are good options.
7. Look for easy game at night clubs.
8. Set a goal to meet at least two new girls everyday and get their phone numbers.
9. Assess your chances adequately.
10. Remember: pick-up tricks and phrases are the least important in pick-up. For what is important return to point 1.